Self-Examination: Are you willing to look within and ask whether you are doomed to lead an ordinary, mediocre life, or meant for something better, something special? Do you want to change? Are you willing to change?
I’ve been to a few AA and Al-Anon meetings: they are wonderful organizations where attendees describe “hitting bottom” as a primary catalyst for their recovery. The basic idea is that, for things to get better, they must first get worse. Only then can they admit they have a problem and seek help.
We need not fall to rise, but it does seem to strengthen the resolve to change. Whether you’ve hit bottom or not, you must at least get pissed off enough with your current state that you will do almost anything to change.
Hitting bottom doesn’t have to come in the form of your 4th DUI or your spouse walking out on you with the UPS delivery person. Your bottom might be when you realize that your favorite chair is the one you constructed out of old pizza boxes and duct tape, or perhaps when you notice that you have dedicated an entire drawer in your kitchen to little packs of parmesan and red peppers. It doesn’t matter what your bottom looks like (unless you’re into yoga) if it creates a reaction as we saw in the 1976 Oscar-winning film, Network:
“I want you to get MAD! I don’t want you to protest. I don’t want you to riot: I don’t want you to write to your congressman, because I wouldn’t know what to tell you to write. I don’t know what to do about the depression and the inflation and the Russians and the crime in the street. All I know is that first, you’ve got to get mad. You’ve got to say: ‘I’m a human being, god-dammit! My life has value!’ So, I want you to get up now. I want all of you to get up out of your chairs. I want you to get up right now and go to the window. Open it, and stick your head out, and yell: I’M AS MAD AS HELL, AND AM NOT GOING TO TAKE THIS ANYMORE!”
Ah, go ahead, do it. You know you want to; who cares what the neighbors think. They’d like to do it too. Maybe you’ll start a trend in the hood. Go to the window!